Try is a failure word.
Do you try to spot when you are using a failure word?
Ask yourself this; how often do you TRY something.
Try is a failure word. It leaves room for excuses. Telling yourself that you tried your best. Allows room for failure. Most people think of the word, try, as a positive word. Some people believe the word trying means that they attempted it, at least. Trying means they worked, even though they did not succeed.
I tried my best.
We like to believe that we tried our best. As we were growing up most of us had parents that would foster the idea that trying is a good thing. When the baseball game was lost you were told that you tried your best. Maybe you did, and maybe you did not try your best. Either way, trying did not get you the result that you wanted.
Try is the excuse.
For most, try is the excuse that they use when they do not want to face the realization that they did not do all they could. Most, if they really look at their lives and situations realize that they did not devote as much time preparing towards the goal as they could have. That is the truth. When we say we tried it really says it’s okay that I failed, I gave it a good attempt. But a good attempt is not what is going to move us forward.
Rather than try, do!
Rather than try to do what you need to reach your goals. If you do not reach your goals then you failed plain and simple. Admit that you failed to reach your goals and that is it. There is no try! When you take responsibility for your actions you will see this. You will notice where you failed. Then, you can realize that you did not try, you failed to accomplish your mission.
Failure is a negative word
Here is the problem, most people are also taught failure is an enemy. Failure is a negative word. To fail is not to have done something right. That is backward thinking. In order to succeed, you must have the failure. Failure is a part of success. The famous story goes, Edison failed to refine the light bulb (one of the few creations he merely refined but did not invent) so many times it took him 10,000 attempts to perfect. However rather than accepting failure 9,999 times he is quoted as answering questions on his failures as rather: ‘I have not failed. I have just found 9,999 ways that do not work’.
Go ahead and fail.
Rather than try to do something go ahead and fail. Fail and learn from your mistakes. Look at is as failing forward because when we allow room for failure we can re-examine what we did so that we can figure out where we went wrong. When you figure out the solution to your problem, that is when you become a success. When you fail, then rationalize with I tried, then you are doing nothing but hurting yourself.
When I catch my kids or clients use the TRY word, I discuss it with them. It is not a good word. Rather fail forward. Succeed or fail, move forward or learn why you did not so you can open the door to success. TRY will keep you where you are because you use excuses that rationalize your efforts. Try is an excuse word.